When a death happens, do you become closer to the ones you love?

As I dreamt about my brother of all people this morning, I woke dazed and wondering WHAT was being said to me, I get a startling message from my father....
"Your aunty Dot passed away this morning".
Was my brother suppose to tell me something this morning?
Firstly, I don't remember dreams. They have always been that way with me and if I do not keep a journal close at hand so I can wake up and jot it down quickly, they are forgotten fast.
All I will remember is that he was there and it is very rare that I dream about him.

My aunt was a saucy woman, with whom I get that sauce I suppose.
Dot was a woman, from a family that was filled with secrets and walls.
With whom I am BLESSED & PROUD to be a part of, but with whom I have turned away from in order to make my own happiness.
I use to get involved with the secrets and such, but now that I have become my own woman, I decided that I would ignore the past and MOVE FORWARD and live the way I WANT TO LIVE and NOT by the tone of the family.
I LOVE EVERYBODY!!
I am NOT going judge......are you banned from the family, should I talk to you.....does THIS side SPEAK to that side.
I speak to EVERYONE.
I LOVE everyone.
I would hope that with what this family has gone through, we would learn to ACCEPT AND LOVE EACH OTHER....NO MATTER WHAT.
As each of them slowly leave us, we are left to either continue or accept a new way.

So, with that, I say I am going to not worry about WHO is not speaking to WHOM and realize that we are a FAMILY and my family ROCKS!

My aunt was feisty and gutsy and loving and charming and spunky and I have heard people use THOSE words to describe me and since she has passed.....I have to acknowledge those words and be PROUD of them because they came from someone VERY special which in turn, makes me VERY SPECIAL!!

So, to my Aunty Dot.......I hope that you realized how much I appreciated you, I was BLESSED to have you in my life, I will dearly miss our telephone conversations and you trying to figure out ...WHERE IN THE WORLD I WAS THIS TIME.